Becoming intimate – being truly vulnerable, transparent and genuine with your partner – is not for the faint of heart. It requires you to have the emotional strength and spiritual courage of a warrior who is committed to take on the difficult challenge ahead and never surrender. It takes a willingness to learn how your [...]

“Why is this relationship so much work? Shouldn’t it be easier than this?” These are two of the most common questions we hear from people in our practice. Here are our responses: Yes, intimate relationships take a lot of work; that is the nature of the beast. And no, we would not describe a healthy [...]

It’s not unusual for couples to start counseling many years after difficulties have begun. They describe not having been happy for years and question whether or not they still “love,” or are “in love” with, their partners. So what does “love” look like after many years of marriage? It’s a difficult question to answer. The [...]

Debbie: He is always asking me for sex. He would be happy if we did it once a day, or twice for that matter; I would be fine with sex once a month. Lori: Have you always felt that way? Debbie: No, only in the last few years since we had kids. I’m exhausted all [...]

“…there’s nothing more intimate in life than simply being understood. And understanding someone else.” ~ Brad Meltzer Did you ever know a couple who never argued or disagreed, who were the envy of other couples in your circle of friends, who appeared to be the perfect pair (so you thought)? Then, the next thing you [...]

How well do you know yourself? Can you identify your feelings with ease? Are you in the habit of noticing your thoughts and feelings in good times and bad? How well do you voice your feelings? These are some of the questions you must ask yourself to grow more conscious of your ability to emotionally [...]

“I found my friend and my lover again.” That was how one of our clients described the vacation with her husband. They hadn’t gone away together since their youngest child was born, 5 years ago. She continued, “We communicated, he listened, we had fun, we felt close. It was the first time we relaxed in [...]

Marriage isn’t supposed to make you happy – and satisfied. It’s your job to make your marriage happy – and satisfying. Same goes for sex. It isn’t supposed to make you passionate and ‘hot.’ It’s up to you to make it passionate and ‘hot and intimate.~ Diane Sollee “He’s coming to pick me up in [...]

When love and sex become one, emotional and erotic intimacy coalesce. We call this “Romantic Fusion.” Fusion occurs when two distinct elements, heated to a very high temperature, gain kinetic energy causing their molecules to accelerate and, ultimately, merge into one unified whole. On Valentine’s Day we celebrate the fusion of love elements: the joining [...]

Do you plan time for yourself or for your relationship during the holidays? We know, you’re thinking, “Are you serious? With all I have to do: shopping, cooking, wrapping gifts, sending cards, baking cookies, decorating?” During the hustle and bustle of the holidays, it’s pretty common to forget about doing anything for yourself, let alone [...]