Love is an ideal thing, marriage a real thing; a confusion of the real with the ideal never goes unpunished.~ Johann Wolfgang von Goethe, 1749-1832 Will marriage become a thing of the past? Some frightening statistics were recently reported by the Pew Research Center. They found the rate of marriage in the United States is [...]

“When two people are under the influence of the most violent, most insane, most delusive, and most transient of passions, they are required to swear that they will remain in that excited, abnormal, and exhausting condition continuously until death do them part.” ~ George Bernard Shaw Ask any bride and groom on their wedding day, [...]

Did you ever wonder, just what New Years is all about? It is the celebration of one moment in life that symbolizes time’s passing. It reminds us to take an intentional accounting of how we have lived our lives over the previous year and consciously consider what changes we want to make for the next [...]

The Truth About Marriage. We invite you to join the conversation about this topic and everything else we’re blogging about this month. To your relationship, Lori and Bob Hollander

Before you vowed, “Till death do us part,” did you talk to your partner about how many kids you wanted? About sex and monogamy? Your values about money? How you manage conflict? Or, did you instead focus on planning the “perfect” wedding and honeymoon? You’re not alone. Most couples are so mesmerized by being in [...]

This is a letter of gratitude to my husband, Bob, for giving me the strength, the courage and the impetus to grow. When Bob and I met one of my greatest fears was speaking in front of an audience; somehow I made it through college and graduate school without having to stand up and give [...]

The greatest gifts you can give your children are the roots of responsibility and the wings of independence. ~ Denis Waitley When our second child left for college it hit us – the empty nest – that dreaded stage of family life. After years of dirty diapers, temper tantrums, separation anxiety, homework, doctors appointments, orthodontist [...]

Every couple needs to fill their relationship toolbox with the tools required for building and maintaining a lifetime of supreme love. But, what good are tools if you don’t know how to use them? This is where skills – those you have and those you can learn – come in handy. And communication is the [...]

The best and most beautiful things in this world cannot be seen or even heard, but must be felt with the heart. ~ Helen Keller When a couple comes into to our office, we feel three “beings” enter the room, the two partners and the “relationship.” It’s always been fascinating to us how we can [...]

We know what you’re thinking: a one night stand?! Have Lori and Bob lost their minds? Well, read on before you decide. When our kids were young and we were working overtime to grow our business, there was never enough time, energy or money to take care of our marriage. By default, marriage maintenance took [...]