No matter how hard you hug your money, it never hugs back. – H. Jackson Brown, Jr. I never worried about money until my parents’ divorce. During my first 12 years I wasn’t even aware of money. We lived in an upper middle class neighborhood, dad worked, mom was home with the kids and all [...]

I’m living so far beyond my income that we may almost be said to be living apart. ~ E. E. Cummings When you and your partner sit down to work through differences about money and finances, anything you can do to make the conversation less emotional and more rational is a good thing. We recommend [...]

Unresolved conflict about money is the #1 cause of divorce in the US. Learning to communicate effectively about money is the #1 solution. The ability to face, handle and resolve conflict is a skill. Unfortunately, it’s not a subject or skill we are taught at school or at home, for most of us. We get [...]

I don’t care too much for money For money can’t buy me love. ~The Beatles Bob and I have been talking with you about money and its meaning in our lives and relationships. There is one aspect we struggle with and truly want to hear your thoughts. When one person is the primary breadwinner and [...]

From birth to 18 a girl needs good parents. From 18 to 35, she needs good looks. From 35 to 55, good personality. From 55 on, she needs good cash. I’m saving my money. ~ Sophie Tucker Bob and I presented The Great Divide – Women, Men & Money to a fabulous group of women [...]

Cathy: We had the perfect life. For 15 years the business did well; Chuck took care of the bills and investments. I never had to worry about our finances. Then one day he told me we would have to file bankruptcy. He had borrowed most of the equity in our home to keep the business [...]

Conventional wisdom says that having conflict in a partnership is “bad.” Most couples perceive conflict or its lack as a measure of a relationship’s strength or weakness. The truth is that conflict in itself is not bad; in fact it is a necessary part of every relationship. How could you truly be emotionally intimate with [...]

Do you and your husband argue about money? Consistently, money is reported as the Number One issue that couples have conflict about. A nationwide study by MONEY Magazine surveyed 1,000 couples (500 husbands and 500 wives) and found 43% of the spouses argued about money, compared to 20% who argued about sex. 84% said money [...]

“The Lost Conversation” is the one that goes beyond the spoken word, diving deeper into the conflict, to uncover the hidden and unconscious conversations. Below the surface, it searches for understanding and meaning within each individual and their relationship. Here, right and wrong have no place, because at this level, both partner’s perceptions are always [...]

We’ve received a lot of great feedback about our communication topic over the past few weeks and it made us curious: What is communication like for couples in our community? What are the common issues and complaints? How can we support you even more in this arena? Even more, we thought you’d like to know, [...]