“Nothing is more noble, nothing more venerable than fidelity. Faithfulness and truth are the most sacred excellences and endowments of the human mind.” ~ Marcus Tullius Cicero Why is it that on the day couples say “I do,” 100 percent of us commit to monogamy, yet ultimately many people break that promise? During the lifetime [...]

If only I’d thought about the pain I would cause, If only I’d looked toward my partner rather than away, If only I’d spoken louder about the emptiness I felt, If only I’d stopped arguing and started listening, If only I’d compromised more, If only I’d had more patience, If only I’d kept my commitment [...]

Men’s affairs in particular are often the cause of troubled marriages and not the effect. In my data, 56 percent of men who entered into affairs said they had ‘happy’ or ‘very happy’ marriages, compared with 30 percent of women. For men, the strongest predictor for having an affair is their attitudes and values about [...]

Dealing with extramarital affairs is a life-altering experience. It’s more than just dealing with the affairs themselves (as if that weren’t enough). It’s dealing with the fact that nothing is the way you thought it was. Your dreams of the “perfect marriage,” however unrealistic, have been shattered. ~ Peggy Vaughan, author, To Have and to [...]

The workplace has become the prime launching pad for modern infidelity. ~ Shirley Glass, author, Not “Just Friends” Had a rough day? Your co-worker would understand much more than your spouse; you rationalize that you don’t want to take the stress home and dump it on your partner. Why not grab a bite to eat [...]

The new infidelity is between people who unwittingly form deep, passionate connections before realizing that they’ve crossed the line from platonic friendship into romantic love. Infidelity is any emotional or sexual intimacy that violates trust.~ Shirley Glass, author, Not “Just Friends” Affair – The word no married person expects or wants to ever hear. Though [...]

Because I’ve been on the receiving end of infidelity, I know how much it hurts. ~ Rachel Hunter

I’m tempted to go to all the buildings downtown and put up a sign, ‘DANGER ZONE: Men and Women at Work.’~ Shirley Glass, Ph.D. Allan and his colleague, Kelly, spent two months tirelessly working on next year’s strategic plan. Their collegial bond developed into a mutual respect for each other’s work; devoted to their company’s [...]

Before a betrayed partner can let go and forgive, he needs to make sense of what happened – and sometimes talking is not enough. Bibliotherapy, or reading therapy, as an adjunct to counseling has been shown to speed the recovery process significantly. And it increases the odds of maintaining progress once therapy has ended. Prescribing [...]

The rocky road back to re-commitment and trust after an affair is akin to climbing a mountain. Reaching the summit looks like an impossible ascent as you begin the long, painful journey one step at a time. Emotionally, you are in unfamiliar terrain feeling more vulnerable than ever before. It’s estimated that only 35% of [...]