Before a betrayed partner can let go and forgive, he needs to make sense of what happened – and sometimes talking is not enough. Bibliotherapy, or reading therapy, as an adjunct to counseling has been shown to speed the recovery process significantly. And it increases the odds of maintaining progress once therapy has ended. Prescribing [...]

Our capacity to make peace with another person and with the world depends very much on our capacity to make peace with ourselves. – Thich Nhat Hanh Self-Forgiveness – the act of accepting and loving your whole self is not an easy task, especially when you have hurt your partner. Letting go of self-blame, guilt, [...]

“Forgiveness does not necessarily mean reconciliation with the person that hurt you, or condoning of their action. What you are after is to find peace. Forgiveness can be defined as the ‘peace and understanding that come from blaming that which has hurt you less, taking the life experience less personally, and changing your grievance story.’” [...]

Most often, when you read about “forgiveness,” it’s in relation to something “terrible” that your partner has done – lying, cheating, having an affair. Why? Because it is very challenging to forgive (i.e., let go of your anger) when awful things happen. What gets ignored is forgiveness of the “not so terrible” things, the little [...]

Why is it that the people we love the most are so often the ones we hurt? Being kind to people we are not intricately involved with doesn’t take much effort. We put on our game face, stay close to the surface and show the best part of ourselves for a short time. And if [...]